How to Wean Your Breastfeeding Child...

~ Posted on Friday, April 19, 2013 at 7:58 AM ~

When I first got pregnant in late 2010, I panicked because my 2 years old boy was still nursing up to 4-5 times a day and ALWAYS before nap and bedtime. People around me keep telling me to quickly wean him off, else when he goes to nursery/daycare, he will have trouble then since he's used to my breasts. I also get people telling me that my breastmilk will be poisonous when I'm pregnant (old folks myth) so I actually started with reducing his nursing to before nap and bedtime.

What I did was, I replace the other feeding sessions with play and activities. We spend some time in the playroom, let him do some drawing or doodling, play his Lego, watch TV or iPad, anything to distract him from asking for his nen-nen (aka his breastmilk).

But honestly to tell you the truth, the only time I can rest during my tiring phase of pregnancy is when my boy nursed. I love that I can just lie down on bed with my bulging belly and let my boy suckle. I get my rest, he gets to nurse and comfort himself and we get to bond. Win-win situation, no?

I did however managed to cut down our feeding sessions to before afternoon naptime and bedtime but yes, I do occasionally let him nurse when he is fussy or having discomfort. I'm practising what we call the, 'Don't offer, don't refuse' method. You don't offer your child your breasts if he/she does not ask for it but you don't refuse him/her if he/she does ask for it.

In September 2011 when my girl came along, I had tandem nursing aversion for 1 month. I hated my boy so much when I got home from hospital with my baby girl. The moment my boy asked for his feed, I got so angry. Poor boy doesn't know why mummy is like that. Finally acknowledge I got problems in my head and tell my hubby and I even blogged about it. I felt a big relief after that cos it's all in my head and when my 2nd child is 1 month old, I got over the tandem nursing aversion and continued feeding both my kiddos. My boy, always before afternoon naptime and bedtime. My girl, on demand whenever she wants.

Slowly my boy will forget to ask for his feed when he sees me and my girl constantly nursing (I feed on demand) and sometimes when he asked for it, I will let him nurse. The last I asked him to suckle, he forgot how to do it. He was 45 mths old then ...

Now what I would suggest you to do if you are in the same situation, as in, you want to wean your child...

  • I'd go for gentle weaning if possible. Gentle as in, letting your child lead his/her way.

  • NEVER decide to wean when you are not in a happy mood. You might regret this decision later.

  • Go Google more on the 'Don't offer, don't refuse' method. I personally feel this method is more peaceful and gentle.

  • Slowly replace nursing time with other bonding activities to keep your child's mind off asking for feeds

  • Get your partner to accompany your child before bedtime.

  • You can do a count if you have to nurse your older child to sleep, probably count to 20 then tell him/her it's time to sleep.

  • I also patted my boy's back and gently rubbed his back to sleep, until today he needs one of my hand to be on his body/face - something like a comfort pillow for him to sleep.

I breastfed my boy throughout my 2nd pregnancy, tandem him with my newborn girl for 1 year+ and finally weaned him at 45 mths old. Maybe a tad too long for some people but I believe in letting my child lead his way. I am currently preggy with our 3rd child and is still nursing my now 1.5 year old girl and doing the same method. I'll let my child decides when they are ready to stop.

Me tandem nursing Ben at 3 years old and Alyson at 6 months old...

I have a beautiful breastfeeding journey with my 4 years old Benjamin and would never trade anything for it. I hope to repeat the same thing with my 1.5 years old Alyson now and continue on tandem nursing her and our 3rd child later if possible.

Picture taken of Benjamin nursing at 43 months old...

Here's wishing you all the best in your decision making and I hope you will have a memorable breastfeeding journey that you can treasure with your child for a long long long time!

Do Not Worry!

~ Posted on Wednesday, April 17, 2013 at 6:08 AM ~

I came across this bible verse and it reminded me back the time I was deciding whether I should quit my IT job of 9 years in order to be a stay-at-home mother for my child (then about 2 months old). We were having trouble looking for a babysitter for him (one that can take care of him while I work from 9am to 6pm) and were pondering what other options we could have in order for our baby to be cared for properly.

Can't rely much on my MIL as she has (and still does) sleeping problems... she goes to bed at 7-8am and woke up at 12-2pm. By which time I'm already out at work and definitely can't leave my boy at home for her to care for.

And so we prayed to God, and decided to let Him decide. His will, His bill. At that time, we are relying on my hubby's IT business and of course I'm comfortable earning my own salary. To cut things short, decision was made, I quit and became a SAHM since then.

We were lucky to be staying with MIL (her house but hubby paid all the bills and groceries) and we have a car, a second-hand 11 years old car which hubby bought for very cheap price and it's all paid up, so not much commitment on our sides other than we must be frugal and think lots of times before deciding to spend any of our money. No overseas holidays until kiddos are old enough to appreciate and remember, even for family outing, we do it like once or twice a year locally and get the affordable holiday package and simply just budget and save.

Matthew 6:25 (NIV) “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?

Matthew 6:27 (NIV) Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life[a]?

Matthew 6:32 (NIV) For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them.

To be honest, today, hubby's business is really picking up and we are looking for resource to help him in his company and kiddos wise, 2 now, with 3rd one on the way in September this year.

And a few weeks back, I checked back my personal bank accounts, the savings there is almost the same as what I had when I quit my job. Meaning, God provides enough for us to sustain through the years. God is good!

iPad App Review - Just Lost

~ Posted on Friday, April 12, 2013 at 7:42 AM ~

I'm so glad to be able to review this app with my kiddos! We are a big fan of Little Critters' story apps but the lessons to be learned from this app is very very useful and I'm glad to see my 4 years old boy keep watching and listening to this app over and over again! Without further ado, here goes my feedback...

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* Title: Just Lost
* Price: $0.99
* Category: Books
* Released: Mar 27, 2013
* Version: 2.1
* Size: 23.4 MB
* Language: English
* Seller: Oceanhouse Media, Inc.
* Rated: 4+
* Requirements: Compatible with iPhone, iPod touch and iPad. Requires iOS 5.0 or later.

Description from the product page:

"Little Critter has a quite an adventure at the mall when he gets separated from his mom! He bravely keeps calm, asks for help from a security guard and is soon reunited with his lost mother. Young children will be reassured by the happy ending and learn what they can do in a similar situation."

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* It is engaging and interactive and I love that we can also touch the objects in each page on the screen and the words pop out to tell you what it is!

I like the storyline where it tells how Little Critter got separated from his mother and his siblings during a shopping outing and how he took control of the situation and reunite back with his mother later.

* I used the opportunity in this storyapp to educate my boy what to do if the same thing happened to him one day (hopefully not of course!). I told him to look for people in uniforms, be in sales staff or people who worked in the mall or supermarket or whatever place we are at or to look out for security guards. Nobody else but people in uniforms. I also taught my boy to remember my name and his name and age so that he can relay the information if somebody asked him (in order to look for us)

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You can purchase the "Just Lost " app from the iTunes App Store.

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I received no monetary compensation for this review, I was provided with the promo code to redeem the application for free from iTunes Store in order to facilitate my review. All opinions expressed in this post are my own. Please do your own research when purchasing products, as your opinions may differ from mine. And if you'd like to read my previous iPad Apps reviews, you can do so by reading this post of mine called "My iPad App Reviews"