Potty Mouth...

~ Posted on Tuesday, July 17, 2012 at 2:06 PM ~

Sigh... what to do when your child has potty mouth?

Lately, my 3 years old boy has started saying these words: "STUPID ANT"

I realised he learned this from my MIL. You see, sometimes there are ants crawling around in our kitchen and during the initial stage, my MIL will kill the ants by either wiping them away with a damp cloth or pressing the ants with fingers or stepping on them with her feet.

Then Ben started observing. And listening.

And my MIL while killing the ants, will say 'Stupid ants! See Ben, see all these stupid ants!'

And now he says out what he learned and observed all these time.

Sigh... I am trying hard to 'wash off' these potty words from my 3 years old's mouth.

But the more we tell him not to say it, the more he thinks it is funny that we are annoyed (and angry) and the more he says it back.

So I'm now trying to ignore him when he says it. At the moment, when he notices me ignoring him (as if I didn't hear him), he repeated the words LOUDER and LOUDER. After a few attempts, he will go on with his playing and activities and forget about it.

Okay, at least my boy did not say any vulgar words but to me, the word 'stupid' is bad manners enough and I feel embarrassed with that word already.

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So tell me, does your kid do this?

Do you have any Parenting Tips you can share on how you deal with it?

Comments (15) -

Carolyn

My boy also use the word 'stupid' before and I was shocked. Now he still does sometimes when he is angry with something or he thinks I'm not listening. Ignoring like what you did is the right thing to do actually.

Jenny @ I'm a full-time mummy

Hi Carolyn!
Oh-kay... I hope Ben stops it soon.. it is getting lesser nowadays and I noticed he stops saying it when nobody pays attention to him.. Tong

Jennifer

My nephew sometimes says "What the heck!" I am not sure where he learned it from, most probably from the movie. The problem is he is being taken care by my MIL who doesn't know English. So she won't be able to know if he is speaking rude? I think this situation is worse than yours, as you are still able to correct him. Smile

Jenny @ I'm a full-time mummy

Hi Jennifer!
Thanks for sharing your feedback! Ooo, I noticed you have a FB page! Am going to check out your store! Smile

jani

I think ignoring is better than scolding. When they think it's not getting any response and they'll lose the fun of doing it. My gal would desperately want to grab hold of the thing we forbidden her to take but after letting her to hold and examine for few minutes she'll let it go on her own. I think the same applies here.

Rose

My MIL have a very foul language in her mouth and I have a son who is nearly 2 years old. We are staying in the same house but i keep away my son from her and avoid her as i can. She stay downstairs while us stay upstairs Smile

Jenny @ I'm a full-time mummy

Hi Jani & Rose!
Thanks for sharing your feedback! I guess, avoiding and ignoring are the best options now! Smile

Jennifer

Yes Jenny Smile Trying to run a shop to earn a bit side income. I've just started so it is very slow.

I read your blog very frequently. Now I am starting to read about Potty Training. My LO is 14 mo. Not sure if he is ready but I need to get my self ready rite?

Have a good day! ^_^

Jenny @ I'm a full-time mummy

Hi Jennifer!
Yes, slow and easy to potty train! I'm planning to get my 10mths old girl to use cloth diapers soon, last time I got it for my boy but he's not in the right condition and timing to use that last time so I stored it away. I think my girl is ready! ;)

You have a good day too! Do follow my FB page too, I'm more active there hahahaha!

Dionna @ Code Name: Mama

Stupid was one of Kieran's first words that made me cringe. I simply explained to him what it meant - usually when he uses a word like that (one that he's heard other people use "with power"), he has no idea what they even mean. He just knows it gets a reaction. So we talked about how that word can hurt people's feelings. And when he uses it, I simply say "in our family we do not call people that word, we value being kind." (or something like that)

Jenny @ I'm a full-time mummy

Hi Dionna!
Yes, I do agree with you, I don't think Ben understand the meaning of the word 'stupid' but like you said, this word gets a reaction! So far he says it lesser especially now that I ignore and pretend I didn't hear it Tong

Clare

I am not sure if this whole thing is made up. Stupid ant is far from being potty mouth. Give the child a break.

Jenny @ I'm a full-time mummy

Hi Clare!
Thanks for your comment! I do wish it is all made up! That way I don't have to get annoyed or embarrassed when I hear it from the mouth of my 3 year old boy! Of course I did mentioned I'm thankful he did not say vulgar words but I think habits like this need to be curbed rather than ermm.. giving them a break?

Katherine G

Have you tried letting him earn privileges or  stickers for a special prize if he uses good words and not the bad ones and if he uses uses the bad ones taken them away.

Miki Chua

my son learn from me.. so now.. i say "shoot" and now he follows.. guess i need to control myself.. hahah

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