Potty Training with Briefs and Stickers...

~ Posted on Monday, July 25, 2011 at 8:48 AM ~

I have previously blogged about our adventures in cloth diapering (which is part of my potty training plan apart from trying to see whether we can save more using CD instead of disposable diapers) but have realised we're not making much progress... as Ben soaked through 2 inserts (2 and 3 pre fold) in 3 hours time and being a heavy drinker (of water that is!), I don't think Ben can do much progress in potty training with CD. Plus I need Ben to be able to tell me when he feels like peeing and he is not able to do so while wearing diapers (be it CD or disposable)

I then read and Googled on what other parents do in their potty training plans and decided to try boy briefs. Just simply strip them off diapers and let them wear their briefs (I called them 'Big Boy Pants'). I dug out some of the briefs that my SIL passed on to me years ago and managed to find 3, wash and dry them off and got ready to start using it on Ben.

Day 1:

-> Had to coax Ben for a few minutes for him to wear his 'Big Boy Pants'. He keep insisting on wearing his diapers and pants. In the end, I managed to get him wearing it and also his normal pants. Well, at least he's wearing the brief now.

-> Now, Ben is the type of person who absolutely cannot stand any stains or dirts or spilled stuff on his body. So the moment he wets himself, he wailed. I had to comfort him and tell him "It's OK, let's try again and mummy put on a new pants for you ok?"

-> 2nd brief, he wets himself again in less than 10 minutes. At this point, I realised "Oh man... my son does not know how to tell me when he wants to pee. I am in deep trouble, this is more serious that I thought."

-> Decided to explain to Ben gently that it's OK for him to wet himself, mummy will wipe the floor, no worries, and maybe the next time when he feels like wanting to pee, he can tell mummy first? I repeated it every now and then, gently and careful not to put any pressure on him.

-> Within 5 minutes, he wets himself again. I'm out of briefs already, end up putting on a disposable diaper on him (plus it's near his naptime too).

-> Told myself, is OK, everyone's gotta start somewhere and it's been 2 years, I cannot expect miracle on 1st day!

-> I also told hubby about what I'm doing and told him I need more briefs for Ben. Hubby bought 3 more from the night market (3 for RM10). He got 2 with Bumblebee and 1 with Cars at the back of the briefs.

Then I was talking with my SIL (the one who gave me the briefs years ago) and asked her about her experience in potty training her 6 kids. She said for daytime potty training, I should have started when Ben turned 2 years old. As Ben is now 28 months old, she comforted me saying maybe I got sidetracked with the pregnancy and all  and though it's a wee bit late, it is still achievable and that I have to get it done before Spicy Baby comes along.

She also said the diapers must go off if I want to potty train Ben, which is what I'm doing right for now and she told me to make potty training a fun activity so that Ben will not feel pressured. OK, got it!

Day 2:

-> Googled around, found some sample sticker system for potty training and decided to DIY and customised one for Ben. Hubby has earlier promised to Ben if Ben is a big boy (aka do not need to use diapers) then daddy will buy him a bicycle (which Ben saw at a park during one of thier daddy-son park outing)

-> I put on some potty training goals into the chart which Ben can achieve, such as "You're wearing big boy pants!", "You told me you need to use the potty!", "You use / sat on the potty!", "You told me when you were wet!" and "You stayed dry all day!" and got ready some never before seen cute and small stickers which I told Ben we will stick on the chart when he did so and so goals.

-> I also showed him the new briefs that daddy bought for him, parading the one with Bumblebee to attract his attention. Boy, he's hooked! Then off we go to wearing his new brief without any fuss at all!

-> I'm happy to report, Ben started telling me 'potty, shee-shee' and we will run as fast as we could (to make it fun and exciting!) to his potty in the bathroom (I left the door open for ease of use)

-> So yes, on day 2 during daytime (from 11am to his naptime at 3pm), Ben successfully told me he wants to pee and he peed into the potty a total of 4 times - accident free! Oh, just want to add he was very excited as daddy was around the whole day and I guess he wants to impress daddy too!

-> Each time he achieved one goal, I told Ben he did a great job and mummy will give him stickers to paste on to the chart (taped to the wall) and cheered him on after he put on the stickers and repeated to him the bicycle reward which he will get when he's off diapers one day!

Ben choosing his stickers...
My big boy putting on the stickers...

Day 3:

-> We continued on, as of 11am to 2pm and 8pm to 9.30pm today, Ben has successfully told us he wants to pee and peed into his potty 7 times without any accidents at all! Woohoo, score!!

-> Of course, it was tiring for me to drop everything and run with him to the bathroom but seeing his pee shooting into the potty, seriously, is ever so priceless! And since hubby is around today, I got him to do a couple of the running trips too!

So, the CDs will be in storage for now as I plan to:

-> put Ben on briefs for his daytime potty training (right until his afternoon naptime) and then briefs again when he wakes until night time sleep.

-> once Ben is able to potty train for his pee control successfully, I will move on to training him to poop in the potty. He still does not want to be touched at all when he poops and prefers to do so in his diapers - standing.

Anyway, one step at a time. As of now, I'm already feeling on top of the world!

Comments (20) -

Dominique

I started toilet training the boys at 2.5yr old for #1 and about 3yrs old for #2 it took about 4-5 times before they finally got diaper free.. and it varies with each kid.. I hope that it will be easier for my #3 when she comes of age.

Jenny @ I'm a full-time mummy

Hey Dominique!
Thanks for sharing your experience! I always believe that we should not rush a child into potty training and that when they are ready, they are ready. But it kinda freak me out when I first realised my boy is not able to tell me he wants to pee the first time I put him on briefs.

I don't want him to be too dependent on diapers (CD or disposable) cos they really do a good job in soaking up the pee and keeping him dry, too good job that they don't feel the need to tell you when they pee cos something always soak it up!

I think for my 2nd child, I'm going to start her a bit earlier, probably at age 2 Smile

Carolyn

Wah happy for you. Congratulations. I think I must also start potty training Joseph lar.

Carolyn

her??? so it's confirmed then? spicy baby?Tong

Jenny @ I'm a full-time mummy

Hi Carolyn!
Yes, confirmed Spicy Baby is XX aka girl Smile How old is Joseph? If he's showing signs then can start! I'm starting cos SIL said daytime potty training should start at age 2 and it'll be easier for me if Ben's potty trained during the day when Spicy Baby comes along later..

mom2kiddos

Sticker reward system is such a great idea! COngrats! I know how it feels - big achievement for a mummy when her kid finally does it in the potty. I trained my boy at 19 mths and got him off daytime diapers by 20mths. Wah it was a trying 2 weeks to train him but I think my method was not right - trained him too early and I blame this on my MIL. Should have waited for readiness.

Jenny @ I'm a full-time mummy

Hey Germaine!
Yeah, my goal now is for daytime potty training and for his pee first. As for poop, still long time as he doesn't want anyone near him when he poops. He will do his business and then tell you 'wash backside' when he's done.

Catheryn @ Pinkbibs

Good boy Ben!!

And you have done a good job in helping him Smile  Bravo Jenny!

Jenny @ I'm a full-time mummy

Thanks Catheryn! Thanks to Ben for helping mummy, less work when Spicy Baby comes along soon! Tong

1tootiefoodie

I am familiarizing my 18month right now on what a potty is and how to sit on it....getting deathly afraid of the actual "training" part with no diapers.  EEEEKKKK!

Jdaniel4's  Mom

Jdaniel4's Mom says:

We used candy as a reward. My husband and I  kept snacking on it. We went through a lot of candy.

Jenny @ I'm a full-time mummy

Hey 1tootiefoodie!
I actually have no problems with being grossed out with poop and piss, it's more of the patience that I need to have (tons of it!) to be calm and encouraging at the same time. All the best to you, do try to take it slow and don't rush it if your toddler is not ready yet ;)

Hey JDaniel4's Mom!
Thanks for your comment. Oh wow, candy huh! So are you successful with the potty training?

Family Help

Potty training is definitely tiring and mess. But when you see your kid learning, really a priceless one.

Jenny @ I'm a full-time mummy

Hey Family Help!
Oh yes, totally agree! And yes again, no matter how tiring it is (especially when you're in your 8th month of pregnancy), it is really priceless and rewarding when you see it working out!

aurie

Jenny - YAY!!  Go Ben!!

We are still working on pooping in the potty.  Sophie gets constipated, so we are really trying not to force the issue.  She generally poops in her diaper during naptime, so in the next few months I'm going to try leaving her in her big girl pants with the potty in her room at naptime to see how that works.

Bella, on the other hand, happily poops in the potty - but can't control the peeing yet!  LOL!  

Jenny @ I'm a full-time mummy

Hey Aurie!

Oh yes, I do plan to get it right with the pee part first before moving on to the poo part. And I agree with you on not forcing the issue, I've read that the child might get traumatized if you keep insisting that they use the potty!

Ben always poop in his diaper - mid standing, and refuses to allow anyone to be near him until he's done. As it is, I'm already a happy mum for now! Smile Thanks for sharing your feedback on this! Smile

Carolyn

wah congratulations. u will have one pair already. both of us not bad lar. got a pair. *perasan*. eh Joseph just turned two early this month lar. sudah lupa ka..Tong

Jenny @ I'm a full-time mummy

Hey Carolyn!
Oppss... sorry ya, preggy brain forgetful! Tong

Jin

Hi.

Wanted to share my experience on potty training my 15 mth old son. We started potty training or elimination communication since my son was a week old. It started out as an act of convenience ie let him familiarize with the cue for peeing n pooping, my aunt was telling me how her MIL managed to train my cousin to pee n poop to the respective cues since he was born. Wat the heck, if it works, it works lo. No harm done ma.

Anyway, ever noticed tt bb will cry jus b4 he pees or poops? Well tts the best time to teach the cue sounds... As he pees or poops or finishes his pee n pooping  u can randomly throw in the cues.

My first happy experience with elimination communication came when he was 1 mth plus n we were both wide awake at 4am... So I tot might as well bring him to the toilet to poop. I had a stool seated in front of the toilet bowl n I would then cradle him over the toilet bowl, legs facing inwards to the toilet bowl. So I started the peeing n pooping cue. After a while he really pee to the bowl n also he did his big bsn! I was so surprised n excited...haha but every day after tt he would wanna poop at 4am. After 4 mths he would do the pooping cue on his own to ease the poop out.

I actively try to get him to poop in the toilet bowl so I hv less dirty cloth diapers to wash. An added advantage to early introduction of the potty.

It's best to train them now as they hv the innate ability to learn things while they r babies. It will b harder to untrain them when they r older. My 2 cents.

Jenny @ I'm a full-time mummy

Hi there Jin!
Thanks for sharing your experience and feedback! So good to hear of your success story!

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