Words Can Hurt...

~ Posted on Wednesday, August 25, 2010 at 2:16 PM ~

I was feeling pretty upset this morning. Decided to try to use the oven for the 1st time by baking a ready-made pizza dough. Just required a few instructions to follow along using the oven and you can have the pizza ready to eat in about 15 minutes. Thought I'd give the oven a try, and also give me a mini boost to conquer my fear of baking first.

The pizza calls for the following instruction:

1. Preheat oven to 220℃

2. Take out pizza dough from box and internal plastic wraps

3. Put pizza dough right in center and bake for about 8-10minutes, or until cheese melted and you see the crust is golden yellow

4. Ready to eat!

Simple right?

I thought this is just a mini warm up start for me to get used to following instructions on baking and using the oven... But, the moment I got ready the oven, I hear this coming from my MIL:

"What? You are going to start using the oven already? Sigh... you all just do things for fun because it's a new thing" (I'm translating this from Cantonese to English.. the words in Cantonese were harsher... it's actually 'San Si Hang' which practically means new toilet seat.. something which Chinese like to say to represent people getting excited for the first few moments over new stuff and then forget and stop doing it when they get bored of it)

So anyway, yeah.. those 3 Cantonese words goes to my ears and stabs right in my heart. Maybe you think I'm over-reacting but it hurts.

Baking things IS a new thing for me. Is it wrong for me to get excited over this new thing?

But who is she to assume this excitement is going to pass? And I'm still wondering what else I did that made her assume that?

I told her nicely that "If everytime someones tries to attempt something new and you go telling the same 3 words to people, how will they get encouraged to continue on? You already branded people that way and assume people is going to stop doing it. Can't you be more encouraging?" She kept quiet after that.

Sorry for venting out but I reminded her that she is the same person who told me 'Guns and weapons won't hurt people if you leave it there, but a mouth can turn a gun and weapons to hurt someone. A mouth can tell someone to get a gun or weapon and hurt someone'.

So why is she doing this?

Nevertheless, I grit my teeth and continue on with the pizza thing and now that I'm typing this, I'm more determined to prove her wrong. I thought to myself.. why am I letting her discourage me? True, it's her mouth and I cannot tape it shut and I've got no control over what she wants to say but I got control over my ears.

I can choose to ignore and NOT listent to those negative words. Read: Ephesians 4:29 (NIV), John 14:1 (NIV)

My 1st SIL is coming this weekend to show me some demo on a few of her baking recipes. Wish me luck with my baking adventure!

Read: Mark 10:27 (NIV), Deuteronomy 31:6 (NIV), Philippians 4:13 (NIV), Deuteronomy 31:8 (NIV)

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Oh girl, I can totally relate. Words can be like POISON. I have so many stories from the equivalent person in my life. Anyways, good for you for standing up for yourself and I love what you said. I know for sure it's hard to let things slide! Keep on with the baking...it's important to you and it's fun (jeez what's wrong with doing something fun anyways?).

I'm a full-time mummy

Hi Steph!
Poison can also be used to cure an illness Tong So, am trying to think positive and happy thoughts!


insecurity dear. the talking down on you is a way to make herself feel better. Insecure people cant find a better way to do it..

I'm a full-time mummy

Aww... theHubby... like the nick! Smile
Insecure or feel threatened that the kitchen area is being trespassed? Anyway, more determined to prove her wrong! Smile


way to go my friend prove her wrong!! and you know what every time she says anything like that shield yourself with a belljar and let her words bounce back..Smile

love the verses you quoted. thats what i need to learn to do!



I think you learning to bake is so cool!  Good luck with it!

I'm a full-time mummy

Hello Ruth!
Thanks for your encouragement!

Hello cfoxes33!
Thanks for your wish! I'll do my best!


hang in there!  I didn't learn to really cook and read a recipe until I was married and in my early 20's.  You can do it!!!  

I'm here from iFellowship!  So glad I hopped over!

I'm a full-time mummy

Hi Penny!
Thanks for your word of encouragement! Appreciate your comment and hope you have a blessed day ahead!

Catheryn  @ Pink Bibs

Hello Jenny aka new baker in town!

Your MIL is so 'cool' to use that 3 canto words. LOL!
I agree with the comment above me about insecure people making others feel lousy.  
You should be proud of yourself of not shooting anything harsh back at her.  Bravo!


p/s:  Do remember to let me know if you bake anything extra.  My free pickup offer is still valid! Smile

I'm a full-time mummy

Hi Catheryn!
Aiseh.. not yet not yet... this is super minuscule scale of baking.. Actually just pop in pizza into oven and flick some switch and buttons only... cannot consider baker yet!

When my baking results can be edible (hehehe) then we do another round of SAHM gathering ok?


Words are what hurt us the most.  I know I'd much rather be beaten than to hear words of discouragement and derogatory comments.

Good luck on baking!  It's so much fun!  Hope the pizza was yummy!

I'm a full-time mummy

Hi Katie!
Thanks for the wish! Appreciate your support!


Learned a new Cantonese word:San Si Hang. I get the meaning after a clear explanation from my husband.

And, Jenny, I like your blog much. It'd encourage me to be a full time mummy also. I am not good enough in English, but still, I always read your blog.

I'm a full-time mummy

Oh hi Alice!

I'm so flattered! Thank you for your support and encouragement! It's so good to see the support from others!

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