I'm a full-time mummy

As an individual, I would say I am pretty gullible and easy to trust others - especially when they are older and seems wise. I would say this pretty much applies to most topics except those that I'm passionate in, like matters relating to breastfeeding and perhaps blogging and doing product reviews.

Anyway, the other day, my hubby was telling me to be careful and be wise to discern the advice dispensed by other people especially when it comes to parenting and children topics. He said learn to identify whether these people truly care and wants to help and share their tips or they just want to boast and brag about their accomplishments.

To be honest, when hubby told me some of the things to look out for in order to identify 'well-meaning' people like this, I was gobsmacked. It kinda hit me because some time back, I was nodding and agreeing while looking at my kiddos as I listened to some of these 'well-meaning' people telling me that my kiddo is displaying rude manners and etc.

Yes, we should not give excuses for our children for their rude behaviour. But hubby's point was there are people who easily dispenses their thoughts and judgment based on a few minutes observation alone, and did not see the clear picture of why our boy acted that way.

Hubby said that people who truly care and really wants to help will try to understand the situation at home, how was our kiddos like at home, and then monitor and analyse from there onwards. Rather than just seeing what is going on in less than 5 minutes and immediately concluded that our kiddos are rude and misbehaved. He also said there are other 'well-meaning' people who instead of helping, they just want to brag about their kiddos' or their accomplishments.

In summary, again hubby said, we must not just listen totally and believed others opinions are right. We as parents should learn to identify these people and see for ourselves whether it is really as what other people observe.

What about you?

Do you know how to identify 'well-meaning' people and how do you handle people like this?

In this post, I am sharing my personal tutorial on how to remove Facebook user(s) from a Facebook fan page. I spent quite some time going over tons of websites that claims to be able to guide you to remove users but it does not work for my case because I have over 15K followers on my page and a lot of these website guides are feasible for fan pages with less than 1000 followers.

For example, if you have less than 1000 fans on your page, you can simply scroll through your likes page from your admin panel and click the X button to remove and/or ban the particular user. But anything more than the 1000 fans, you cannot scroll past the amount as Facebook does not do that!

So, I managed to find this very helpful website and hence am sharing my methods here (please note that I'm using Firefox to do this):

1. Find the Facebook numeric user ID of the user you want to remove. As most user pages now display the user’s name instead of the numeric ID, you can go to http://findmyfacebookid.com to find the ID.

2. Paste the profile url of the user (it will be something like www.facebook.com/username) and it will show you the numeric ID. Copy that numeric ID.

3. Next go your Facebook fan page, look for the "Get More Likes" section on the left, you can see the "See Likes" link. Click on it and you will see a pop up window showing you the list of all your fans.

4. I choose the 1st one on the list and right click on the X button next the user and select ‘Inspect Element (Q)‘. A developer window should open below the page as shown in the screenshot.

5. In the developer window below, look for the user-id keyword. You can double click the 'value' field entry and paste the user's numeric ID that you want to remove from your fan page.

6. While the developer window is still open, just click on the X link on the same 1st user again (instead of right click as in step 4), and a window will pop up to ask you whether you want to remove the user. Click OK to remove the user from liking your fan page.

7. You can also tick the 'Ban permanently' option at the bottom if you do not want the user to comment on your fan page in the future.

** IMPORTANT NOTE - I did a test using my fan page (which I have restrict to readers 17 years old and above):

• Test #1 - Age Limit: I did a test by creating a test user profile in Facebook, firstly by putting my age as 13 years old. Once I'm in Facebook, I cannot find my fan page - this is due to my fan page only allows readers above 17 years old.

• Test #2 - Changing my test profile age: I changed my test profile age to above 17 years old and this time I can find my fan page. I click the 'Like' button to subscribe to the fan page.

• Test #3 - Remove and ban the test profile: Using my own FB ID, I look for the test profile ID and remove it using the above tutorial steps.
  

• Test #4 - Trying to comment using test profile: I look for my fan page but am no longer able to comment on any posts in the page. I also noticed that the 'Like' button is no longer checked, meaning I have been unsubscribed from the page. However, I am still able to click 'Like' again and browse through all the posts and everything. Just not able to comment.

• Conclusion: Setting age limit to above 17 years old will not work if the user purposely faked their birth year to bypass Facebook checking. Also, after removing and banning a user profile from FB, they can still go to your page and stalk you, or click 'Like' to subscribe again. So you will need to repeat this tutorial whenever they click 'Like' to your fan page.
  

I hope the above tutorial helps you!

I started my breastfeeding journey since March 2009, when our 1st child was born and I never stopped breastfeeding since then. I breastfed our 1st child past 1, 2, 3 years old, throughout my 2nd pregnancy, then went on to tandem nursed our first 2 kiddos for 1.5 years until our 1st child self-weaned at 45 months old. As for 2nd child, she is still nursing right now at 2 years old, I nursed through my 3rd pregnancy and currently tandem nursing our 2nd and 3rd child since 1st October 2013.

With all these experiences gained in my breastfeeding journey, I decided to pen down the critical phases which I think contributed to a successful breastfeeding journey.

For my 1st post, I will start off with: the 1st hour after giving birth to your baby.

Yes, a new mum will normally starts producing breastmilk around day 4-5 after labor but that does not mean you have to wait till day 4-5 to start breastfeeding! I will always advice new mums to start latching immediately after delivery! Even though your body has yet to start producing milk, starting on with the latching will send signals to your brain that, yes, your body need to make milk FASTER! And of course, latching early will also help baby to practise his latching technique and help YOU in your breastfeeding techniques too.

Here's a picture of me breastfeeding my half hour old baby Carolyn. If I have my camera or handphone with me I would've snapped an earlier photo but too bad, don't have them with me and can only rely on my hubby to take the picture (and he was busy answering calls and announcing to everyone on the arrival of our baby)

Now, the birth hospitals you are in also play a huge part in making sure you are off to a successful breastfeeding journey. If you are determined to breastfeed your child, please make sure you inform the hospital staff beforehand that you want your baby to be breastfeed and no formula feeding whatsoever. There are hospitals (private ones especially) which will feed formula milk to your baby so you need to make sure to inform the staff if you do not want this arrangement.

Also, do note that baby actually do not need feeding for the first 4-5 days. Think... our breastmilk comes on day 4-5, so Mother Nature intends for all things to be sync and work for each other in the right time. There is no need to panic that baby is hungry just because he/she is crying! Think, your baby has been comfortably coccooned in your womb for 9-10 months in total darkness, no sound, no smell etc and to be born suddenly into a world of bright lights, loud sounds, hot/cold environment etc of course baby will cry!

If you already caved into feeding formula to baby in the 1st hour itself, it is already jeopardising your breastfeeding journey! A newborn baby's stomach is VERY VERY small only and if you are not careful, you may overfeed the baby and too much feeding will expand baby's stomach and this is a vicious cycle. Stomach gets bigger with extra feeding, you need to feed more next round, so on and so forth.

There are new parents who, under pressure and influence from old folks will give in to supplementing with formula since mum is not 'able' to produce 'enough' breastmilk for baby. Do also take note that formula milk is made from cow's milk - milk meant for calf, not human baby. So it will take longer time for baby to digest the formula milk due to the higher protein content in the formula milk (which is easier to digest if it is drank by a calf) So we get the wrong perception that baby is sleeping well because he/she is taking formula milk compared to a baby who is taking breastmilk who wakes up more frequently - because human's milk is easily digested by baby and when a baby nurse, he/she will automatically stop when he/she is full (so no overfeeding here!)

To sum this post up:

Critical Phase For Successful Breastfeeding Journey : the 1st hour after giving birth to your baby.

• Starting on with the latching will send signals to your brain that, yes, your body need to make milk FASTER!
  

• Latching early will also help baby to practise his latching technique
  

• Latching early will help YOU in your breastfeeding techniques too

• Please make sure you inform the hospital staff beforehand that you want your baby to be breastfeed and no formula feeding whatsoever

That's all for my 1st post in the critical phase for a successful breastfeeding journey!

Feel free to ask and share if you have questions or feedback!