Stop Taking Sides!

~ Posted on Friday, September 24, 2010 at 12:40 AM ~

I get annoyed with what my MIL does sometimes. Before you go on saying that I should respect the older folks and just be patience and let them say and do what they want, well, I did that. MANY TIMES. But it keeps coming. In fact, I think it made her feel braver to continue picking on me! Read: Jude 1:16 (NIV)

I'm so tired of being picked on. She just can't stop boasting about all the good traits in Ben are from her side of the family.

Don't you know it is a sin to do this? Read: James 3:5 (NIV), James 4:16 (NIV)

Whenever she noticed Ben misbehaving, I'll get to hear the famous sentence "Your hubby never does that when he's young. In fact, none of my 5 children does that too. Ben must have gotten the bad habit from you or your side of family". *Speechless*

Just today, she saw Ben banging his head on the floor (his usual habit of throwing tantrums) and of course, immediately this ensues:

MIL: "Is your dad a very hot tempered person?"

 

Me: "No"

 

MIL: "He doesn't throw tantrums or easily angered?"

Me: "No" (I have no recollections of my dad bursting in tantrums at all throughout my life)

 

MIL: "How about your mum?"

Me: "No" (Same case, my parents have got to be the most quiet and peaceful individuals you've ever seen!)

 

MIL: "Then your brother?"

Me: "Nope"

 

MIL: "Cannot be. Why is Ben banging his head on the floor? Look at his tantrums! My 5 kids never behaved like that when they were young so it definitely must be from your side of the family!"

Sigh... Why must the bad habits be from my family? And what gives her the right to say that? What makes her think she knows my family well enough to say that?

This is just so unfair!

(*Image taken from Google search)

Maybe it's easy for me to be blamed on since my parents are no longer around on this planet to help me defend and prove her wrong. But hello, she can't even remember what happened days ago, and yet she can remember what happened when all her 5 kids were young? Like ermmm... over 4 decades ago? The crappiest part is of course, the good traits are all from her side of the family.

And there's no mention about where Ben gets his quietness and reserved self, his generosity and his fast learning ability. All these traits which doesn't seem to be coming from her side of the family just wasn't mentioned at all. Don't even get me started about Ben's facial and body features. Which riles me up even more. Oh puh-lease get real...

But seriously, why compare and take sides? Read: 2 Corinthians 10:12

Regardless my side of family or her side of family,

aren't we all in the same side of the family now?

Shouldn't we be focusing on nurturing and loving the young ones and of course, showing good examples in our everyday actions instead of picking, comparing and boasting about all this? Read: 1 Corinthians 13:4 (NIV)

Of course when I mentioned about how we should not be comparing or saying this or that is from yours or my family, she immediately changes the topic before I could counsel her longer. Sigh...

Have you experienced this before? What do you do if you're in my shoes?

Book Review - The Butterfly Effect: How Your Life Matters (Andy Andrews)

~ Posted on Tuesday, September 7, 2010 at 1:18 PM ~

This is the 3rd book by Andy Andrews that I have the privilege of reviewing as part of the Book Sneeze Blogger Reviewer program. Since I can't wait for the hardcopy of the book to arrive (it normally takes about 1 month time to reach my country), I decided to read the book online when I found out that the e-book version is also available for reviewing.

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Like the previous Andy Andrew's "The Boy Who Changed the World" book that I reviewed, the "The Butterfly Effect: How Your Life Matters" is about how each decisions we made, be it big or small, is in some way contributing to the changes we see around us.

I would say that this book is the adult, more matured version of the "The Boy Who Changed the World" book.

One of the examples given in this book is how things are what it is now, all thanks to a 34 year old school teacher. As I'm not familiar with US history, I thought it was just a story or fictional character until I read the whole story about how this school teacher persevered on and fight for his beloved country. The other few examples are the same from the "The Boy Who Changed the World" book.

It is an amazing feeling to read that every little action and decisions we made can cause a ripple in the future. I also like the illustrations in this book, how it intertwined with the story. Overall, I'd give this book a 9 out of 10.

FYI, Andy Andrews has written over 20 books. This book was written because Andy wanted to inspire courage and wisdom in the decisions we make, as well as affect the way we treat others through our lifetime. You can read more about it and even view some of the preview pages at: http://www.andyandrews.com/ms/the-butterfly-effect/

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You can get this book from Amazon, The Book Depository and many more.

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I received no monetary compensation for this review, I was provided with a copy of the book by Book Sneeze in order to facilitate my review. All opinions expressed in this post are my own. Please do your own research when purchasing products, as your opinions may differ from mine.

And if you'd like to read my previous book reviews, you can do so by reading this post of mine called "My Book Reviews"

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Book Review - The Boy Who Changed the World (Andy Andrews)

~ Posted on Tuesday, September 7, 2010 at 12:59 PM ~

This is the 2nd book by Andy Andrews that I have the privilege of reviewing as part of the Book Sneeze Blogger Reviewer program.

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The Boy Who Changed the World

The Boy Who Changed the WorldI'm a full-time mummy is about how each decisions we made, be it big or small, is in some way contributing to the changes we see around us.

We might not realised the so-called butterfly effect but as you read this book, the story unfolds deeper and I was amazed as I read the ending of the story of each individual as I thought 'Ok, so that was how it ends...' but nope.. I was surprised to read how the story goes on with the next individual and how at the end, came to realise that everything is interconnected.

Andy Andrews-The Boy Who Changed the World

Andy Andrews-The Boy Who Changed the World

Pictures above showing Ben checking out the book...

I really like the way the story unfolds and interconnect with each other. Even though this is a children book, in my humble opinion, I think us adults would learned a lot by reading this book too!

Andy Andrews-The Boy Who Changed the World

Now, what I don't really like is the illustrations. I'm not a fan of illustrations like this though I love the vibrant colors of it - as in, I prefer to see the images sharper and not blurred or dreamy like the one in this book.

Overall, I give this book an 8 out of 10.

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FYI, Andy Andrews has written over 20 books and this is his first book for young children. This book was written because Andy wanted young people everywhere to understand that they are very special. He also wanted them to know that they really can make a difference in this world, just like all the people in the story!

You can also check out http://www.andyandrews.com/the-boy-who/ for more information!

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You can get this book from AmazonI'm a full-time mummy, The Book Depository and many more.

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I received no monetary compensation for this review, I was provided with a copy of the book by Book Sneeze in order to facilitate my review. All opinions expressed in this post are my own. Please do your own research when purchasing products, as your opinions may differ from mine.

And if you'd like to read my previous book reviews, you can do so by reading this post of mine called "My Book Reviews"

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