I have previously posted fans' questions on my Facebook page (I'm there almost everyday) but decided to move them to my blog instead, reason being it is much more easier for me to track the comments and searching is way easier if the questions are all stored on my blog.
So, without further ado, today's question is from a fan with some issues with her new neighbour.
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Do spend some time to read through and understand her situation and share your opinions and thoughts on her questions and if can, suggest what she can do to overcome these issues. Thanks!
"I moved in my new house nearly 3 weeks ago. There is a family next door. They have teenage kids and a 5 years old girl. The day we moved in the 5 years old girl invited herself into play and her parents let her. I didn't think much of it and let her play in. She had tea with us. Now every day she wants to come in and play.
Up until now I've been letting her in, she is coming round early in morning asking for breakfast, dinner and tea. Not going home until half 8 at night. My son is only 2 and goes to bed between 7-8pm. She has gotten more comfortable with us now and she is rude. She says things to me like "get me a drink" "I'm hungry get me some dinner". If I say come on let's play out for a bit it's nice out, she says I don't wanna go out I'm staying in your house".
She sits next to me and either elbows me or whistles at me to get my attention. She knows my name. She winds my dog up by chasing him sometimes. We were going out with friends for a meal at the pub she asked to come and was questioning me when I said no. She always wants to go play upstairs in my son's room. I say no as he is only 2 he has tons of toys down here. And her mum comes and says 'oh I'm just going shopping can she stay here?'.
And this morning I answered the door and it was her, we had just got up and having breakfast. I said I'll come get you when he is done eating. She said well can't I come in now. I said no. And she shouted at me and said she has been asking to come around since 5am. I said yeah well she can come in when he has eaten. I'm starting to get fed up of it.
Also she eats loads when she is here. Today she had some dinner then 3 packet of crisps, now asking for biscuits. And I can't be doing with her rudeness. If she speaks to her parents like that, that's fine it's none of my business but I won't have her talk to me like that. Am I wrong for
A. Saying no to her coming in every day and only doing it every few days.
B. For making her speak to me with manners. She asks me something and I won't do it until she says please."
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